I can't help but take a 'singing from the rooftops' approach when it comes to Brene Brown. Her Ted Talk "The Power of Vulnerability" changed the way I view myself and others, shedding light on topics such as weakness, shame, courage, and what it means to truly connect. Brene Brown's wise and refreshing words altered the way I think, parent, and love. Her talk also led me to her insightful book, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are, which elaborates on why we should allow ourselves to be vulnerable:
“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”
Other favorite quotes from Brene...
“Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life. Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it's often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis.”
“Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It's about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.”
“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”
I’m not saying that letting myself ‘be known’ doesn't scare the crap out of me anymore, but I understand now why vulnerability is imperative and worth the discomfort. Imperfection bestows a surprising array of gifts.
(P.S. The only compensation I receive from book reviews is the bliss of shining light on powerful words.)